Anonymous asked: so theres this guy who really likes me and i dont like him back. i mean, i don't think i like him... hes not even my type && im always trying to friendzone him as much as possible... but heres the problem, im ALWAYS thinkinn about him. i always think about these hypothetical situations && all that.. so iono. advice???? please..
WHOAAAAAA. you are asking ME for relationship advice?!
Well, this is new. Well… I’ve been asked for relationship advice before, but not though Tumblr. Well, this should be interesting. hahaha
Since I have no idea who you are or this guy is, answering this question is going to be hard cause I don’t know the characteristics between the two of you…
Well, it seems like you have a small crush on this guy of yours. I’m guessing you two are really good friends and you don’t want to mess this friendship up at all. Correct?
If that’s the case, been there done that.
For me, I used to have a crush on of my guy friends and the fact that he liked me back just scared me. why? 1) he’s not my type (I completely understand you there. I tend to like typical douche-bags of society and he was complete nerd), 2) our friendship means more to me than some silly relationship, and 3) in the case that we may break up in the future, it’s not going to go to well when we hang out with our friends. Not all real life situations are like How I Met Your Mother.
What did I do? He eventually went up to me and asked “What are we? What is this? Between us?” I simply answered “We are better off as friends.” and I gave him all the reasons and he agreed.
It broke his heart knowing that we can’t be together, but we both agreed and realized it is probably for the best. Since we are good friends, we looked over what if we were in a relationship. What would work and what wouldn’t work. We realize at the end, we’re not cut out for each other.
The key here is communication, maturity, honesty, and trust. You definitely need these to not only to keep your friendship held together, but for future relationships with any other guy that you’re going to be together with. However, this is easier said than done. He didn’t talk to me for a week. Guys tend to forget, but they don’t forgive. To my luck, he loves me as a friend enough to forgive me for it. :] We remain great friends to this day.
HOWEVER, there are situations that you ought to give him a try. Like I said, I don’t know you anon (or do I?) and your liker, sooooo if that’s the case, just go for it. If he pops the question, just be straight up honest: “I’m not sure if I like you, due to (insert reason[s]) here, but I’m willing to try this out with you because I actually think we work out despite my skepticism.” BE HONEST. Be assertive! Don’t be nervous or freak out because that’s going to make things bad. He’ll probably think that you’re still not comfortable with him (if he’s not dense, that is).
Whether you like him or not, that’s not me for me to tell you if you do. You probably do. You’re just in denial at the moment. Yeah, he maybe NOT the man of your dreams, but he’s the guy who’s not afraid to be straight with you and you like that (subconsciously haha). Yadadameen?
People are not together because they complement each other. That will go against the “opposites attract” work of nature.
